How we think and act determines a lot of what happens in our lives – it’s the law of attraction happening, whether or not we believe it does. Which means that what you’re currently experiencing in your life is a result of how you’re thinking and what you’re doing.
If that’s not what your conscious mind says it wants, it’s time to re-train your subconscious mind and change things for the better.
Check your self talk
Self talk is often negative and is often at odds with what we consciously want. It’s our subconscious mind trying to protect us and going through all the what-if scenarios that do that.
Try to catch yourself when your thoughts turn negative – you probably won’t catch all of them but even catching a few will help. As will being more grateful because that will help turn your self talk in a more positive direction.
Change your mindset
Your mindset is crucial to the way that you think and act.
Studies have shown that people who believe they’re lucky genuinely are luckier than people who believe they’re unlucky.
Do your best to change your mindset from a glass half empty one to glass half full one.
That might give you a bit of brain ache when you first try it but persevere and it you’ll get there.
Turn things around – look for the positive side, even if it doesn’t show itself initially.
Start with the smaller things – the ones that you don’t care about too much either way – because they’ll be easier to change your mind about. Once you’ve done that a few times, move onto larger things and so on.
Use positive affirmations
Affirmations are short sentences that you repeat on a reasonably regular basis – they should reflect what you want to achieve and they should be written in the first person and in a generally positive way.
Check this link if you need help writing them.
Then refer to them often – I like to put mine up near my bedroom door so I’m reminded of them when I wake up and before I go to sleep. Sometimes I’ll use one as a screensaver but whether or not I do that, they’re close by me and repeated often.
Be grateful more often
This could be as simple as saying thankyou (which got a discount on coffee in a French cafe!)
Or it could involve keeping a gratitude journal – it doesn’t have to be long winded, just a few lines each day will help to remind you that there are lots of things in your life to be grateful for.
Work on your limiting beliefs
So often, our beliefs limit us – regardless of what those beliefs are.
We box ourselves in with our beliefs and use them as an excuse not to do things, even if the things we’re turning down would be beneficial to us or we’d just enjoy doing them.
Like most things, chipping away at the edges of your limiting beliefs is easiest. Pick on the small, almost inconsequential, beliefs that are holding you back in some way and shift them out of the way.
Be more present
if you spend a lot of your time re-living the past or worrying about the future, it’s time to change.
Mindfulness is the art of being more present – enjoying the here and now, because that’s the only time that you can influence. After all, the past is in the past and the future hasn’t happened yet.
Do your best to enjoy what’s happening now rather than letting your mind wander into a different era.
Meditate every day
Meditation has lots of benefits. It can help you calm down and relax. And, in my view, it just makes you a better person all round.
It doesn’t have to take very long either – the binaural beats meditation system I use on a regular basis only takes 12 minutes yet allows you to go as deep into the meditative state as a Zen monk.
If you don’t want to wear headphones while you meditate, investigate breathing meditations or ones that involve focusing on a single point whilst you let yourself relax.
But however you do it, find a way to bring regular meditation into your life.