It can be difficult coming back from a challenge. When you become too attached to something, your energy actually pushes good things away. When coming back from a challenge, it’s really important to practice the concept of non-attachment because being detached from something actually sends out a very powerful message. When you are detached you are more open to different possibilities that may present themselves. Being detached is in many ways opposite of a narrow focus because it allows you to take your blinders off and expand your vision. It allows you to enlarge your funnel of opportunity.
Life can be challenging to say the least. Attitude is everything because we cannot often stop that which is barreling towards us, but we can change how we view the situation. We all have things that challenge us because that is life.
Coming back from a challenge can leave you feeling raw and exposed. You may even feel drained or vulnerable. It’s really important when coming out of a challenge to start fresh. If you are constantly talking about your challenge, and rehashing it over and over again, you will have great difficulty getting it out of your mind.
While you may think you have overcome it, and you may be proud of your achievement, the truth is that by talking about it and continually focusing on it you are actually keeping that negative energy in your field of awareness.
Let’s look at the example of someone going through a divorce or a breakup. Anyone who has been through a traumatic breakup knows that it can leave you feeling drained. If you are constantly talking about your experience with your friends and family, and with everyone you meet, all you are really doing is holding onto that negative energy.
If you continue to talk about your ex, people will quickly grow tired of it. Worse yet, you might choose to talk about your ex while out on a date, which is a real recipe for disaster. The best plan of action is one of non-attachment.
Non-attachment really means to forgive and forget. It means stopping yourself from constantly chatting about your past experiences. It’s fine to think about it every once in a while, but it’s not fine to think about it all the time.
No one is perfect, and it’s OK to move on although this is certainly easier said than done.
Change can be a very difficult process. While some people embrace change, most of us don’t. manifest change in your life, you must be willing to do something different and you must be willing to let go of the past.
You may find yourself wanting things to change, but resisting what it takes to create that change. The old saying of “insanity is doing the same thing over and over, but expecting different results” is definitely true here.
Sometimes just making the decision to change helps you to move off of the dime. Just like the butterfly effect, making one small move in one area of your life often helps you in other areas of your life.
This principal is also known as the domino effect. Sometimes all you need is a little momentum to get you started in order to begin the process of effortless change.
When you are faced with a difficult challenge, you probably spend all of your precious time focusing on it. Sometimes it can be hard coming back from a challenge because you may not be used to operating in a world without chaos or strife.
Embracing change can be very difficult because change takes you out of your comfort zone. If you feel stuck in your life, then it may be a good idea to begin embracing the process of change. Embracing change can help you live up to your full potential because it opens your mind up to new opportunities and new situations.
When it really comes down to it, nothing lasts forever so change is imminent.
Resisting change by continually focusing on the past is not healthy. Consciously embracing change can help you in every aspect of life. Everything you do on a day-to-day basis requires you to adapt and grow and change. In many ways, if you aren’t adapting and learning, then you aren’t growing and if aren’t growing, then you become stagnate.
If you are having trouble coming back from a challenge, there are steps you can take to change the dynamic. In order to begin embracing change and moving forward, it is important to acknowledge your feelings. It’s OK to express trepidation or fear in regards to moving into a new phase of life, but you can choose to acknowledge your feelings and them let them go.
It can be freeing giving yourself permission to let go. Sometimes it is difficult to acknowledge the present situation and admit that things need to change. You might even find yourself stubbornly holding onto things that you have in essence already outgrown.
In the end, change is really not that scary and it can even be adventurous. If you can learn to let things go and practice the idea of non-attachment, you will feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
When you can learn to lighten your grip and let go and trust that the universe wants you to be happy, you change your vibration from one of attachment to one of non-attachment. As a result, you work with the flow instead of abruptly controlling the flow.
Having a detached, carefree attitude may be hard, but it’s worth it in the end.
Hilary Neiman is the author of, Things Fall Apart. She works as a personal crisis strategist at www.hilaryneimannetwork.com .