Am I a bad person? Have you ever done something without bad intentions, but how people interpreted your intentions differed to the extent they told you -you are evil? At least most of us have found ourselves in such situations, which left us questioning our traits. Most individuls are unable to distinguish between bad and good personalities or intentions.
But, in this article, we will discuss some of the traits that bring out a bad personality, what situations are okay if people view you as a bad person and how to overcome the feeling.
Traits that bring out a bad personality:
Being a narcissist
If you are selfish, you need all attention, and have no empathy for other people, especially those you are in a relationship with, this is a horrible trait. You end up hurting other people’s feelings by making them feel like they are not doing enough or even good enough for you.
This is a trait that can drain you emotionally since it makes you stuck in a situation. Being spiteful is the desire for vengeance towards a person who wronged you.
If you are only thinking about yourself neglecting the needs or desires of others, well, this shows you are a self-interested person. Such a train is highly seen in workplaces among colleagues.
This is a common trait among siblings where one feels like he/she is more deserving than others. It is never a safe trait as it can hugely bring division among siblings.
If you portray these behaviors without thinking about how others will feel, such that you end up hurting their feelings, you are a bad person even without being called out.
If you don’t consider the consequences of how your behavior may affect someone’s work or life is another feature that proves you are bad.
All the above-discussed traits are clear indicators of a person with bad intentions, and if you find yourself asking yourself if you are a bad person based on how it affected others, you may have to evaluate yourself.
But, some things are done out of necessity, but still, people will term you as a bad person such that you are left questioning your intentions.
For example, if you stop your child from doing something that may harm them but are having fun with it. Well, no parent wants to see their kid crying, and you may be left asking yourself if you did the right thing stopping the kid or not.
If you lie to protect someone, it may leave you questioning if you are a good person or not. However, looking at the brighter side, you saved someone from going to jail or losing a job.
Doing ‘bad things to save or help someone shows you have good intentions, which should not make you feel like a bad person, especially if no one gets hurt from your action.
How to deal with this feeling:
You need to confront the feeling by addressing it with the person you wronged or just talking to someone about it. It would help if you made clear your intention of doing what you did. If you need to apologize, do it to the person you hurt their feelings. If not, make sure the other party understands why you did what you had to do.
Take time before acting
If you are the person who acts on impulse, you need to slow down. Take time to evaluate the consequences of your actions and how they affect other people.
For some behaviors like being a spiteful, self-interested, sadist, among others you cannot easily control, you will need help from a therapist on how to deal with them.
Spend time with different people
The people you live/spend the better part of your day with could be aggravating the behaviors you are portraying. So, try socializing with other people and see how you feel around them.
You may not entirely control some of the discussed behaviors, but how you react later and act towards your behavior counts. Learn to acknowledge the mistake, ask for forgiveness and explain where necessary.
And work on it – maybe by listening to this hypnosis track to help you overcome those feelings.