Isn’t it true that the blame is always placed elsewhere?
We seem to be living in a society that places a lot of emphasis on placing blame.
In reality, it’s not quite like that all the time.
Here are three reasons why you shouldn’t place the blame for your problems on others, no matter how much you’d like to.
At the very least, you’re to blame for some of this.
You are unlikely to be completely blameless unless the event you are blaming was caused by something beyond your control, such as an aeroplane crash or a natural disaster.
It’s possible that it’s not even close to 50/50.
You may have contributed to some of the problems, but I’d be surprised if you didn’t have some input.
All kinds of new doors will open up for you once you stop trying to blame others and start taking responsibility for your own actions.
People will be less likely to avoid you if you don’t fly off the handle and point the finger at them for every little thing that goes wrong.
You’re a control freak
Sorry for being so direct.
It’s common for us to blame others for our own failures, but this is often a ruse to mask our deep-seated desire to control our lives.
The moment we realise that the situation is out of our hands, we panic and look for someone to blame.
They do it all the time in the political arena.
Which, in and of itself, should be enough to persuade us to avoid blaming each other.
Since you don’t seem to want to be one of our economy’s bumbling politicians, I’d be surprised if you did.
It’s difficult to let go of the need to be in control
In fact, it’s a skill that the majority of us never master during our lifetimes.
But it’s worth at least attempting to loosen your grip on every minor detail.
When you accept that you can’t perfectly align every single grain of sand on the beach, you’ll free up time for other – more important – things.
Taking a break from the control-freak side of your personality can actually bring a sense of relief to your life.
You’re the way you are because of your parents
You might be able to use that as an excuse if you’re an eight-year-old and looking for a way to blame others for your woes.
Assuming that you are at least a few years old, I’m going to assume that you are capable of making your own decisions, even if you prefer that someone else hold your hand, make all of your decisions for you, and then take the blame if things don’t go exactly according to plan.
Defend your rights
A backbone is needed.
Take it in stride if something doesn’t work out every now and then.
In most cases, unless you’ve just placed a bet with the house on red on the roulette wheel, you have the opportunity to take corrective action and reverse the outcome.
And if you need more help to stop blaming other people, check this link.