According to Marc Brackett from Yale University, emotional intelligence is the ability to understand your instinctive feelings as well as those of others. It allows you to read and label emotions as well as regulate and express them appropriately. Most people think they are able to do the above. But according to Brackett who is the founding director of the Yale Centre for Emotional Intelligence most people greatly overestimate their emotional intelligence.
EQ is crucial because according to psychological experts the ability to understand and respond to personal emotions and the emotions of other people is a key factor in determining future happiness, health and professional and personal success. Knowing this, it is clear that everyone should take some time and investigate the emotional intelligence strategies for success.
Sometimes in life we go through experiences that leave us hurt and sometimes traumatized. These experiences tend to hold us back from moving on with life or they define every decision that we make. These can cause you to be paranoid, afraid and anxious to live and thus events pass you by.
If you have had such an experience that is causing you not to focus on your present life, then there are a few points to help you let go of whatever happened to you in the past:
Some of us have the problem that having a good night sleep away from home is difficult to achieve. You may feel every last drop of noise from your surroundings causing you a hard time to fall asleep or making you stay awake the whole night.
Other people experience a deeper anxiety of sleeping away from home and it can be a very tough time for them. The only way to overcome this kind of issue is to develop a relaxed and peaceful state of mind while spending a night at other places.
Meditation is undoubtedly a great way to unwind and de-stress and also to improve your emotional well-being as well as spiritual happiness. In fact, a majority of people would like to experience all these positive aspects of meditation.
However, it can be quite challenging to devote an adequate amount time to meditate because of the high speed of today’s life.
Life gets in the way too often. But if you go through these tips for finding the motivation to meditate you should find one that resonates with you and gets you back on track.
Comfort zones are – by definition – comfortable places to be. And unless you’re a complete adrenalin junkie, chances are you like to be comfortable.
Actually, even adrenalin junkies are inside their comfort zone when they’re doing those things that scare the living daylights out of the rest of us.
But near enough all of us have a range of things we do and places we go that are comfortable and it’s rare to stray outside those self imposed limits.
Even if we’d actually enjoy the new things once we tried them.
Here are some ideas to help you get out of your comfort zone.
The things you say to yourself is self talk – whether that’s positive or negative.
It doesn’t matter if the self talk is spoken out loud (although other people might look at you slightly weirdly if you do that within earshot) or “spoken” inside your head. It’s still self talk.
And – if you’re like lots of people – that self talk is more often than not negative.
Turning round that negativity so that your self talk is more often positive is an excellent aim.
Stress happens – it’s how we deal with it that’s important. We seem to need a bit of stress in our lives, otherwise we wouldn’t get anything done. But too much stress can be bad for us, leading to all sorts of complications.
Whilst you can’t eliminate all stress, there are some ways that can help you to stop being stressed out as much and chill at least a bit more.
Goals are good to have – they’re one of the things that help us to move forward in life.
But, so often, they fall by the wayside. New Year’s resolutions are an excellent example of that – way too often we have the same list of goals every year and nothing has changed on it except our morale.
So how can you achieve your goals?
Your inner critic is trying to help but sometimes doesn’t. It’s often there as an almost permanent nagging voice in your head.
You’re not alone – most people have an inner critic that is there, some or all of the time.
Sometimes it’s a good thing to have but often it can be decidedly negative.
Which is why overcoming your inner critic. and getting it to work with you rather than against you, is vital to moving forward in life.
It’s normal for our minds to buzz and chatter away but it’s also distracting. Whilst it would probably be unnerving if your mind chatter stopped completely (your mind would probably start chattering about whether or not you were still alive) there are times when it’s useful to turn down the volume or the quantity of chatter that’s going through your mind.
So, how can you quieten your mind chatter?