It’s easy to overlook the immense power that resides within each of us.
Most of the time, we have no idea how our actions (or lack thereof) effect the course of our life.
There are a variety of reasons why we could feel this way, including a lack of talent or a lack of drive to succeed.
What we don’t realise is that we’re subconsciously sabotaging our own happiness.
We can take preventative measures to avoid damaging conduct in the future once we’ve identified what’s causing it.
When we deliberately harm ourselves, what exactly are we accomplishing?
Even if we claim we want a certain outcome, we may be afraid of it in our subconscious minds..
Let’s say you’re trying to slim down.
Many overweight folks have tried countless diets and yet can’t shed the pounds despite their best efforts (or keep it off).
They chastise themselves, work harder, and try to force the weight to go away in an effort to lose it.
But what’s really going on here?
Do they genuinely want to get rid of the pounds they’ve gained?
Is it possible that their layers of fat are providing a sense of stability and safety in an uncertain world?
What if they feel compelled to hide their identities altogether?
As a result, shedding pounds is viewed as a dangerous and even terrifying prospect.
Because they don’t want to feel vulnerable and exposed, they may sabotage their diet efforts.
There are several ways in which people might set themselves up for failure in their attempts to lose weight, such as sneaking food, skipping exercise, and promising themselves that they would try harder the next day.
Others may be apprehensive about starting a new career since it is so straightforward.
Even for highly sought-after occupations, a startling amount of applicants fail to show up for job interviews.
In the meantime, here’s an example:
Possibly a stay-at-home mother decides to return to the workforce in order to raise money for her and her family’s future.
She would prefer to stay at home with her children, but she feels compelled to work outside the home to support her family financially.
So, rather than looking for the ideal job, she submits applications for positions for which she is unqualified or for which the work hours required are incompatible with those of her family, meaning she will have to decline the post if it is offered.
If nothing else, it’ll give her the satisfaction of saying she “attempted” to find work so she won’t be forced to leave the comfort of her home.
It is possible that those who self-sabotage are terrified of what others would think if they achieve their ambitions.
It’s possible that they operate in ways that ensure their failure because they don’t believe they are deserving of the consequence.
Even the saboteurs have deceived themselves into thinking they know what they’re doing while they’re doing it subconsciously.
If there is any doubt, anxiety, or uncertainty in their mind, they will find a means to avoid it.
Perhaps you fit the bill?
Has self-sabotage ever been a problem for you?
Please tell me whether that is still going on.
Are you stuck in a rut, unable to make any progress toward your goals despite your best efforts?
Our self-sabotaging tendencies can be overcome, however.
The first step in overcoming self-sabotage is to realise that it is taking place.
We must become aware of our ideas, feelings, and behaviours in order to improve our lives.
If you’ve been having trouble achieving a goal and nothing seems to be going your way, take a look at the obstacles you’ve faced and assess the situation.
Is it possible that you could have prevented some of the difficulties by making better decisions?
Have a large number of difficulties occurred in order to achieve this particular goal?
If this is the case, you may be self-destructing.
Meditation is a terrific method to come in touch with your unconscious mind.
Find out what you’re terrified of?
- What are you afraid of?
- What doubts are there?
- What is it about this objective that makes you uneasy?
- What are the reasons why you’d try to keep yourself from doing what you want to do?
Writing these questions and answers down in a journal can also be helpful, as writing can help you connect with your deepest self.
If you’re stuck in a rut of self-sabotage, it may take some time and practise to break free.
We shall be liberated from all limits once we realise that we are in charge of our own achievement!
We can quit self-defeating behaviour and redirect our efforts toward achieving new goals that we will fully support by establishing insight and clarity about the results we want to achieve as well as awareness of potential setbacks.
One day, we’ll reflect and realise that instead of being our own worst enemy, we’ve actually turned out to be our own greatest ally.