Imagine you are about to meet a colleague from work. Thinking of it makes your heart pound hard and fast, followed by a shaky, husky voice, dry mouth, and sweating, blushing, dry mouth and even worse, a stomach upset.
In reality, it is probably easier to just cancel the meeting altogether. Social anxiety is much more than just feeling shy, there is the aspect of panic creeping in and interacting with people feels like a task.
By definition, social anxiety is nervousness in anticipation of a social event or either before or after a social situation. This anxiety makes life unbearable. It deprives you of the excitement of meeting new people and interacting with others. But exactly how do you cope with social anxiety?
Assertiveness is one of the key life skills that are very important especially in a social as well as communication skills training.
If you are assertive, you are able to stand up for yourself or for other individuals in a more calm and positive way without necessarily being aggressive. Hence assertiveness enables you to deliver your point or message across without annoying others and also without upsetting yourself.
Logically, you should learn and keep improving your knowledge on the various ways to improve your assertiveness in order to reduce those stressful times when you feel upset or just generally wound up.
Here are the best main ways to improve your assertiveness that can lead to improvement of your confidence when dealing with other individuals.
Unless you’re perfect then there’s always room for self improvement. The good news is that self improvement doesn’t have to be stuffy, boring and “worthy” – it probably should be fun otherwise you’ll find an excuse to stop doing it.
Dip into the self improvement ideas on this page. Some are easier than others and they won’t all be to your taste or style (but that could change over time – be open to the possibility of that happening) but some will be.
And if one or two push your comfort zone boundaries a bit then that’s a good sign that you should try them.
Having an abundance mentality is something you can nurture and grow.
It’s usually a gradual process – like most things, you chip away at the edges, almost imperceptibly and it seems like nothing is happening.
Then you begin to notice things turn round for the better and you go from a downward spiral to an upward one.
Try it for yourself, starting today!
If you’ve not tried self hypnosis before, getting hold of a free self hypnosis MP3 download can be a good idea.
They’re a good way to trial whether or not you get on with using hypnosis – most people react positively to the suggestions that are made whilst they’re hypnotized so there’s a good chance that you will as well.
You could do a search on Google for free hypnosis tracks.
Sometimes you’ll strike lucky – you’ll get a good quality track and the only “price” will be giving up an email address.
Developing some good personal development goals for work is in itself a good idea.
Goals help you to focus and get to where you want to get to quicker and (usually) easier than drifting through life.
Here are some good ideas for goals you can set yourself to progress further, faster, at work.
Decide on the time-scale you want to achieve your goal in.
Some people prefer long term goals (years), others prefer smaller short term goals that lead up to the big idea but have the advantage of being measured and reached more easily.
And if you do decide to go for a long term goal, split it up into smaller chunks so that you can keep yourself motivated.
When it comes to most things, simple is best.
Most of us over-complicate things most of the time (think of how many of those “must have” functions on your gadgets that you’ve never used) so going back to basics is usually a good idea.
Apart from anything else, the simplest self improvement techniques are usually the ones we can do almost anywhere and with no preparation.
Abundance is everywhere but sometimes it seems it’s stubbornly everywhere except in our lives.
The good news is that it’s perfectly possible to attract abundance into your life. You just need to know where to start and what to do.
Start by taking a step back and observing your own thoughts.
Subliminal messages are weird.
On the face of it, they shouldn’t work.
After all, they’re imperceptible.
If they’re audio subliminal messages then they’re whispered so quietly that we can’t consciously hear them.
Gratitude is one of the things that helps the law of attraction work faster.
So often, we don’t use simple words like please and thank you yet they make a world of difference.
If you’re not already in the habit, try it next time you buy something in a shop.
And smile at the same time!
One of the things that can fast track gratitude even more is keeping a gratitude journal.